Are our old values changing? Think about it.
There was a time when every moral conduct was written in black and white. Everyone followed that same rule of conduct and morals. There was no question of right and wrong. Everyone knew which was which and why.
Are those days over? Now there are many people who follow a lifestyle that is different from ours. This may have always been the way it was, but we didn’t hear so much about lifestyles when I was young. Does that mean some are wrong? Does that make some bad? Or do some just march to a different drummer?
I never feel it is my place to judge others. I was taught to clean my own doorstep. How do I know what is right for some and what is wrong for some? I feel it is a full-time job just taking care of me, myself and I. I have little time to live other peoples’ lives, however they live.
One could argue all day about what is right and wrong or correct or taboo in our society. When we were all finished arguing, all we would have accomplished would be the argument ... which solves nothing and only makes for strained relationships.
I am sure in my grandparents’ time, they took issue to how the young people were dating and partying, because when they were dating and courting, they were always chaperoned and saw each other only at church and school functions or with family. They did not have curfews, as there was no need for a curfew ... they were home or at a family function, supervised at all times.
It is understandable how they would wonder about their grandchildren who went to ball games or parties and stayed out until past 10 o’clock or so. Even though I am sure my grandparents questioned our actions, I never recall a time that they brought up the subject. They believed in us, so they believed everything would turn out OK.
It was my parents’ belief, and now mine, that nothing good happens after 11 at night. That gives any couple time to get acquainted and go to ball games or a movie, and then come home.
I try to follow my parents’ and grandparents’ example. Even though I do not understand some of the ways of young people today, I do respect and love them and believe in them. If there are any repercussions of their actions and choices, I am not the one who has to pay the consequences.
The lifestyles of our young people and older people do not concern me as much as the constant violence and filth that our kids see every day on television and movies. They experience destruction, rage, hatred, murders and lust everywhere they look, from television programs, games, music and books.
It is up to us parents and grandparents and responsible adults to show our wonderful young people that life is not like that. Life is wonderful. Our kids need guidance and models in their lives. When did all the violence and filth begin? Where will it end?
While I am on my soapbox, let me get this off my chest. We do not get things by taking from others. We get what we want by working for them and sacrificing to have the material things we desire. I am sure my grandparents and parents were appalled when credit buying came into being. My generation learned what it was to purchase appliances and necessities on credit. I am sure my grandparents did not. They never heard of credit cards and would not have used one if they had it. Their wants and lives were simpler back then. We have become accustomed to being convinced by advertisers that we NEED certain things NOW, whether we do or not.
I would hope our wonderful young people do not think we are preaching to them. I would hope they learn by observing us. Not that we have all the answers nor that we are always right, but we have worked through many of the problems facing them today. We want to save them from any pitfalls we experienced. Our kids are a product of ourselves, so they cannot be all wrong. They are just thinking for themselves.
When I was young, we did not have all the many temptations that our children have today. Certain actions were taboo and we all knew it. Smoking among kids was almost unheard of. Now there are so many vices and temptations facing kids and such pressures placed on them to be one of the bunch. We did not have that when I was in school. I don’t remember anyone being bullied or coerced to “try” something or dared to do something.
I can understand why so many concerned parents are home-schooling or placing their children in private schools where old-time values and beliefs are taught. It is not to shield them from the world, but so they can be taught right from wrong in Godly surroundings. I applaud them.
One area where kids have changed is in the way they eat. We relied on home-cooked meals and all sat at the table to eat together. We had few, if any, colas or soft drinks except for the occasional strawberry pop on Saturdays when we went to town, or holidays. Fast foods were still not invented. Time and tastes have changed. Few people cook like our ancestors. If young people do cook, they rely heavily on prepared foods, frozen foods, shortcuts such as cake mixes and quick-cooking packets for help. Some of their recipes are great. We used to make Lazy Daisy Cake. They can, too ... this lazy (time-saving) way, but it is good.
Lazy Daisy Cake
1 package yellow cake mix (two-layer size, prepared and baked as directed on box).
1⁄2 cup butter
1 cup brown sugar
11⁄2 cups shredded coconut
1⁄3 cup cream or evaporated milk
Bake cake in 9-by-13-inch pan. Combine and heat remaining ingredients. Spread over slightly cooled cake. Broil until lightly browned.
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